10. Take her to any appointments and help out with the baby.

9. Run errands. Do the grocery shopping.

8. Do not give unwanted baby advice.

7. Care for older siblings.

6. Do some housekeeping, such as laundry or vacuuming.

5. Get together with some friends and chip in to pay for a professional house cleaning service for a couple of weeks.

4. Prepare meals.  Be sure to have everything precooked, so that all she or dad has to do is warm the food before they eat it.

3. Look after the baby while mom takes a relaxing shower or bath or a nap.

2. Focus on the new mom.   Ask how she is doing, and what she needs, not just how the baby is sleeping.

1. Limit visiting time

Do not expect to be entertained when visiting. Remember that the entire family will probably be tired and need their rest!